I love to host an event – stressing over details and shopping lists actually makes me happy, under normal circumstances. Having a party ABOUT me, where I’m the center of attention, is excruciating. Attending a poorly planned party is also excruciating. So here’s what I learned from going to about a trillion baby showers, falling down a Perfect-Shower-Pinterest-Hole, and then finally having my own shower:
- Don’t make the shower too long. Keep it to 2 – 3 hours max and include some sort of eating activity. You’ll find the time flies, the party timing feels pulled together and you don’t have to come up with 15 things to keep people busy. Here’s how I timed my shower:
- 11:00 – 11:30 Arrival, Mom-osa bar (thank you Pinterest!)
- 11:30 – 12:15 Brunch
- 12:15 – 12:45 Craft time
- 12:45 – 1:30 Transition & goodbyes
- 1:30 – 2:00 Optional gift opening and hanging out
I did easy brunch food, salads, and a little “mom-osa” bar with sparkling drinks and fun fruit juices with add ins. My mom and I made some great brunch stratas the day before, and baked them just before we got started. It reduced brain damage and anxiety for this mama so I could focus on more important things, like trying on 25 outfits until I felt cute.
First off, cool it with the games. I’m not saying don’t do anything, I’m saying that, for many people, being forced to play games, for any reason, is miserable. Yes, the melted-candy-bar-in-the-diaper game is fun once, but everyone is bored by game #3. I’m just being honest. Play 1-2 games, if you want, but this should not be baby shower decathlon
Secondly, cocktails + crafting = big hit. I got so many compliments on my shower because of this! My ladies are a real mixed bag, from all over my life, and crafting was a hit with all ages and backgrounds. After a few of mom-osas, creative juices were flowing! We turned people loose on an array of supplies we had arranged in two stations – onesie making and letter decorating. For onesies, we purchased a number of 3-packs of basic white onesies in various sizes, stamps, fabric pens and fabric paint. The results are adorable! I’ve washed them all several times over the past 9 months; they still look great and I smile thinking about each “auntie” whenever my baby girl rocks her lewks. For the letters, I purchased wooden letters spelling out her name and set out tons of washi tapes, stickers, appliques, etc. that match her nursery and each of my ladies decorated one of the letters. These sit on top of the bookshelf in the nursery where they bring me joy every day, and fill the room with love and good vibes.
Additionally, make gift opening viewing optional. Hear me out – I fully believe that every gift is thoughtful and generous and should be acknowledged, graciously received, and formally thanked. That said, this can really drag on. By having gift opening at the end, anyone who needs to leave can sneak out and any out of town guests can hang out a bit longer to savor the time together. My shower had just a handful of my girlies who had flown in, and it was wonderful to have some extra time with them.
Lastly, the most important tip is to do whatever feels right for you! It’s so easy to feel pressure to have a Pinterest-perfect shower and then realize that the candy table display alone was, like, $600. Your shower should be a shameless excuse to have all your favorite people come hang out, laugh a bunch, and impart some wisdom on your baby-havin’ self. Enjoy it!