It’s that time again — time for the very polarizing tradition of setting New Year’s resolutions.
Most people who set one don’t make it past the first few months. In fact, over 75 percent of people who make a New Year's resolution never see it through.
Which camp are you in? Do you set resolutions and lose sight of them, do you get it done like a boss or do you prefer not to partake in setting a New Year’s resolution?
If you fall into the camp of New Year’s resolution setters, how can you ensure you will actually achieve them? And to add to it, goal setting can be more challenging when you’ve got young kids at home.
How to Set New Year’s Resolutions You Can Achieve
A common reason they don’t come to fruition is that people set completely unattainable goals.
Deciding you will work out for an hour every day, for the whole year, is a bit intense — especially if you don’t exercise much now. Busy schedules and life can get in the way and those lofty plans are a miss. Here are a couple of parameters that will help you create and achieve your 2020 goals.
Be reasonable, you are only human. Set yourself up for success with a goal you can actually accomplish. Perhaps that means only setting just one for the year ahead. Think baby steps, take a minimal improvement and focus on keeping it up. You’ll be much happier knowing that even if it was a small step, you still stuck with it.
Or try the micro resolution approach, where instead of having an annual goal you have a different goal each month, 30 days is much more approachable than 365 right? Research has shown that in order to make something a habit, 30 days seems to be the sweet spot for making that good behavior more routine in your life. You can test out different goals to add for some months and other months try abstaining from something to mix it up.
With goal setting in general, you will have better success when you set a realistic goal that truly matters to you. If it is something you really want, something that will make a major impact on your life, you’ll be more likely to put in the time and dedication needed to make it happen.
Don’t be vague and set a general goal of “exercise more.” Set a goal that has parameters so you can’t fudge it, like “run 10 miles every month.” Give yourself a deadline and action steps to achieve it. Instead of “I am going to save more this year” set a goal like, “I am going to save $5200 this year, with a $100/per week savings plan.” Outline where the money will come from to get it done. Keep a journal or note on your phone, make it easy for yourself to check-in and see those specifics working for you.
Be Kind to Yourself.
When the kids are sick and you are backlogged on laundry, it is OK to take a day off. Give yourself grace and time to get things together. Plan ahead for situations that will inevitably happen when you’ve got kiddos and set a goal that is weekly or monthly so you can make up for that lost time and not get off track with your goal. Take it one day at a time and don’t give up.
And if you've given it a week or two and it's just not something you can realistically accomplish then change it up! It's your life and you'll be much happier if you just try a different resolution than completely give up.
Call them New Year’s Resolutions or goals for the year, either way, we all have hopes and aspire to change for the better. The best way to make steps in the right direction is by setting realistic and specific goals that allow you to get them done on your time! Good luck!
So, do you set New Year’s resolutions or not?